People associate
love with feelings all the time. But they are mistaken. Feelings DO have to do
with love, but they do NOT define it. Feelings are just like flowers in a tree:
they’re beautiful, and they adorn the tree, but they’re ephemeral…eventually, they
wither and die, falling to the ground. Love, thus, cannot be a feeling, for
then it would be ephemeral as well, when it’s really supposed to last forever.
As a result, we must turn our attention to the tree itself, to its trunk: what
stays strong
and continues to grow. What is it that makes love as solid as a
tree? How can the tree remain a tree in spite of its flowers? It’s
because love is a decision. You decide to be there for the person, be it your
soul mate, your family or your friends, even when your feelings betray you; and
you stick to that decision, and persevere. It’s
the INTENTION that counts. The feelings will come and go, just like the
flowers, and when they come, they help make the beauty of love more palpable,
that beauty of your heroic efforts to stick to your decision. Just don’t you
forget to not depend on them for stability, since they’re unreliable. And don’t
you forget that love is also all about thinking of the OTHER person, not of
yourself.
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